it: you know that woman from gym that always does
everything the right way? How would you feel if
you find out that what she wants is to submit a
man in bed with a sex whip? Or that boss of yours,
always cold and professional, that just wants to
have sex with you above the Xerox machine?
In the 21st
century, everybody has an image. Has an image of
success, of behavior, of normality. But, deep inside,
we all have our little secrets, our preferences,
our fantasies. And that can be applied to sex -
there's a part of everyone that has a specific taste
for sexual relations. Of course, most people don't
talk about it. As we all have fantasies, we all
are afraid that others won't accept that we get
turned on by those dreams - we are afraid that these
fantasies will ruin our image.
doctors say that these fantasies are not just healthy,
but are an essential part of the sexual relation.
They are daydreams, where people can't act things
they might never do in real life - and they are
turned on exactly by that feeling that is not real.
In some cases, the sexual fantasies can make long
term relationship spicier. When things get caught
in the routine, playing a role for your partner,
trying new concepts or simply doing things a little
different would be enough to make the desire as
strong as it was in the beginning. Or you can just
idealize it in your mind and enjoy the following
moment with your partner, if you are afraid of sharing
your desires. Some people fantasize about someone
other than their partners, and they think that by
doing this they desire to be unfaithful or that
it means they are not happy anymore. But that's
wrong. Evidence tells that those who fantasize are
the ones in happy relationships. The fantasies are
just a new way for the mind to explore the unknown,
a healthy way.
men's most common fantasies: having sex with an
existing partner; giving and receiving oral sex;
having sex with more than one person; trying new
sexual positions; being dominant.
fantasies list includes: having sex with a new partner;
romantic or exotic locations; doing something forbidden;
being submissive; being found irresistible.
So, just use
your imagination. One of the named fantasies might
be yours, or might not. As said previously, each
person has his/hers own desires and tastes. Just
focus on that and you can bring a little extra pleasure
and adventure into your relationship.